The fear of rejection is the root of sabotaging behavior. This intense worry about being unwanted often leads people to take one of two paths: staying out of the dating pool completely or unconsciously self-sabotaging or pushing away the partners they're hoping to attract.

Intimacy is supposed to feel like the safest part of a relationship—a deep, secure bond. But for many people, getting truly close feels terrifying. This isn't just a fear of physical touch; it’s a deep-seated worry about being totally seen and known, which opens you up to the risk of being hurt or rejected.